Rafah, in southern Gaza. Fatima Shbair/Associated Press New York Times 1/29/24 |
Mennonite pastor and counselor Harvey Yoder blogs on faith, life, family, spirituality, relationships, values, peace and social justice. Views expressed here are his own.
Monday, January 29, 2024
Arm Chair Debates Over The Bombing Of Gaza: 'Collateral Damage,' A War Crime, Or Genocide?
Wednesday, January 24, 2024
Hundreds Pay Tribute To A Beloved Cousin
Enacted upon Earth –
The Sweeping up the Heart
And putting Love away
We shall not want to use again
Until Eternity --
I truly want to be more like Barbara, whose primary aim was to be faithful follower of Jesus.
Here is a tribute that was read in Sunday's service, written by daughters Anita and Rosetta:
Mom was a fun-loving, social, and adventurous person. She loved her husband and eight children well and was dedicated to teaching and bringing up us children in the way of the Lord. She, along with Dad, fostered in us the love of singing which passed on to her grandchildren. She always cared about our lives and spent much time listening to and reassuring those of us with more sensitive consciences. She enjoyed reaching out to neighbors and offered a listening ear to those who needed to talk. She loved social activities and hated to miss out on anything.
Friday, January 19, 2024
Can We Trust Anything Considered 'Mainstream'?
This left to right AllSides Media Bias chart represents their analysis of U.S. news sources. |
Tuesday, January 9, 2024
Local Citizens Group Supports 'Second Look' Bill
Serving Harrisonburg, Rockingham County and Surrounding Communities P. O. Box 434, Harrisonburg, VA 22803 https://www.vjcharrisonburg.org/ |
THE PROBLEM: Our Prisons are filled with people over sentenced and costing the State of Virginia as much as $50K per person per year—10x what we spend per pupil in our schools. Many have aged out of the time when they are most likely to commit another crime. One in seven people in Virginia prisons, 4,193 individuals, is serving a life sentence or a virtual life sentence (at least 50 years). Since the 1970s, this number has increased by more than 90 percent. Currently, Virginia is ranked 20th in the nation for the number of people serving a life or virtual life sentence and 13th for the number of people serving a life sentence.
A FACE FOR THE BILL: Jonathan Daryl White is serving multiple life sentences at Augusta Correctional Center. onathan was a 22-year-old Army veteran, a husband, father of two and fully employed with no prior criminal history when he was convicted. He has remained infraction free for his more than 42 years of incarceration.
I have had the opportunity to visit and correspond with Jonathan for well over a decade, and consider him and others behind bars as valued friends. |
Refrigerant Handling License, and has completed Advanced Training and Certification in Air Conditioning, Heat Pump and Electric Climate Control Installation for residential and commercial buildings.
He has developed a relationship with God as a disciple of Jesus Christ and as a Bible Study Coordinator. He has led Bible study classes, assisted in baptism, communion, and has delivered messages of faith to outside volunteers and inmates.
Jonathan has completed all available treatment and reentry programs and would be an asset to his community. He is not the 22-year-old man who came to VADOC 42 years ago, but the mature 65-year-old who has demonstrated that he deserves a Second Chance and a Second Look.
Sunday, January 7, 2024
We Need To Raise Leaders, Not Just Followers
The word discipline comes from the word disciple, suggesting a teacher/learner relationship, not a dictator/subject one. |
"As long as you're in my house, you do as I say. Period."
Have you ever heard words like that from a parent or even spoken them to your own children?
If we parents, teachers and other leaders focus primarily on keeping our charges in line and under control we are likely to create followers instead of leaders, mere subjects rather than engaged citizens. Compliance to rules is a good thing, of course, but the task of parents and caregivers is also to "raise" their children, and to "bring them up" to take their place along side other responsible adults in their families, work places and communities.
In other words, our goal, in the words of authors Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, is not just to "talk so our children will listen," but also to "listen so our children will talk."
Children need to know that any opinions and suggestions they offer in respectful and reasonable way will always be taken seriously. One way to encourage this is by having regular family meetings in which children take an active part. This is not so children have more of their own way, but simply to encourage them to have their say as valued members of the family. This is important preparation for their becoming effective and positive leaders as adults.
Not all issues are negotiable, of course, but with those that are, like decisions about chores, updating and reinforcing family rules, or planning family vacations and fun times, are great ways to teach cooperation and collaboration. And by deciding things by consensus (e.g. with all needing to be in agreement) parents can respectfully veto any unsafe, unreasonable, or unaffordable changes in the family's rules or policies.
Children and teens who are denied opportunities to express themselves and be heard tend to grow up feeling powerless and resentful, and are all too likely to become followers of strong armed despots who promise to take on their perceived enemies.
Congregational families also need to encourage members young and old to participate fully in the ministry and mission of their faith community, and not just elevate clergy and other selected individuals to special levels of status and responsibility. In addition, schools need to encourage and affirm all students for their achievements and leadership, and not offer affirmations and awards primarily to those on the academic honor rolls and on varsity athletic teams. Work places also benefit from actively eliciting ideas from employees for improved safety, productivity and morale.
And what could our detention centers, jails and prisons do to help encourage good citizenship?
The Virginia Department of Corrections has as its mission statement, "We are in the business of helping people to be better by safely providing effective incarceration, supervision, and evidence-based re-entry services to inmates and supervisees." Its vision statement is about being "A premier correctional organization where all individuals achieve their full potential." Then there are eight words that represent the DOC's values statement, the first of which is citizenship, followed by commitment, communication, ethics, honesty, learning, safety and support.
Having "citizenship" as its first value seems ironic in light of prisons being places where men and women are rendered powerless in almost every aspect of their lives. Even after supposedly having been "corrected" and released, felons do not automatically have their voting and other citizenship rights restored, in spite of their having served their time and "paid their debt to society."
Starting at home, we all need to do whatever possible to empower people to be leaders, not just followers.