Teens Share Positive Feelings About Old People

I still have difficulty thinking of myself as old, but we've been a part of Virginia Mennonite Retirement Community's Park Village since the fall of 2011. VMRC began as an "old people's home," and all of us residents are "senior citizens." We are privileged to live in this unit sandwiched between wonderful next door neighbors who, like all members of the human race, are getting older every day.

Thanks to a teacher friend at Eastern Mennonite School, I recently got some interesting feedback from a younger generation about how they view 80-year-olds like myself. At my request she had 45 teens in her classes write responses to the following:

1. What four words come to your mind when you think of someone in their 80's? 

The word that came up most often (32 times) was simply old, a largely neutral term, but the next three words were positive: wise  (17), grandparents (12) and retired 9. Slow (5) was next, followed by experienced (4), kind (2), loving (2), free (2), and sweet (2). There were numerous other positive words cited, like caring, nice, peaceful, story teller, and stable. Single mentions of negative terms included fragile, cranky, frail, grumpy, wrinkly, gray, fat, and worried.

Overall, I found the results more positive than expected. 

2. When would you likely no longer look forward to having another year added to your numerical age?

The youngest age chosen was 16, with a reference to his or her finally being able to drive. The next was age 21, followed by 25, 29, 30 (4 respondents), 40 (6), 49,  50 (6)  60 (3), 70 (3), 75, 80 (2), 85 (3) 90,  100 (4) 101, Never (3). 

I was impressed by the number of teens saying they would keep looking forward to each next birthday with anticipation rather than with dread. 

3. What four words come to your mind when you think of someone in their 20's? 

I was really interested in seeing how their feelings about 20-year-olds compared with their perceptions of those in their 80's, and whether the words chosen for my age group would be mostly positive or negative. 

The words youthful or young came up most often (25 times), followed by college (13,) adult or young adult (10),  parties (6), adventuresome (4), learning (4), energetic (4), broke or poor (4), free (3), busy (3), and cool (2) and there were single mentions of  responsible,  beginning, love, discovery, strong, energetic, passionate, happy, along with negative terms like inexperienced, dumb, stupid, naive, alcohol, confused, immature, crazy and irresponsible. 

This was by no means a scientifically done research, but I was pleased by how mature and how positive the results were, given the common perception that teens have mostly negative attitudes toward old people.

Can We Get Rid Of Evil Doers By Evil Means?

Note the headline in the September 17, 2001, issue of the Harrisonburg Daily News-Record I found stored in our basement recently.

AP September 2001: “Bush: Rid World Of Evil Doers” was the bold headline that appeared in the Daily News-Record just days after the 9/11 attacks on the World Trade Center. 

Here is the opening sentence of the article:
WASHINGTON--Vowing not to be cowed, President Bush pledged a crusade against terrorists Sunday as top administration officials zeroed in on Saudi Osama bin Laden and Afghanistan's Taliban militia for possible retribution for last week's terrorist attacks.
   

Two other front page headlines in the same 9/17/2001 issue were “Military Action Supported” and “Pakistan: Give Up Suspect—Nation Warning Afghanistan to Produce Bin Laden.”
   

On page 13 another article in that issue reported that "Israeli tanks rolled into the West Bank towns of Jenin and Jericho yesterday, shelling buildings and leaving four Palestinians dead." Israel's Prime Minister Ariel Sharon is cited as saying "If absolute quiet lasts 48 continuous hours, our foreign minister will meet with  Arafat in order to advance the ceasefire." To which the Palestinian leader Yasser Arafat replied, "We are ready for political dialogue any time, any place," but insisted the violence was caused by Israel's incursion into Palestinian territory. 
   

Years later, these familiar arguments on both sides have repeatedly stalled negotiations and have eventually led to the kind of dangerous escalation we see in the Middle East today.
   

So how well have retaliatory strikes on the part of great nations like Israel and the U.S. actually worked out?
  

The U.S spent over $2 trillion of mostly borrowed money in an Afghan war and occupation spanning nearly 20 years, the longest war in the nation's history. Nearly 50,000 Afghan civilians lost their lives, with an unknown number suffering debilitating injuries. Over 5000 U.S. service members, contractors and aid workers were killed, along with over 1000 NATO troops and some 44,000 Afghans who joined the fight. The Taliban lost over 51,000 fighters but was never defeated, and the U.S. finally withdrew from Afghanistan in disgrace, reminiscent of the nation’s equally chaotic and humiliating pullout from Vietnam in 1973. 
   

One wonders what would have happened if after the 911 attack, when the U.S. experienced an outpouring of sympathy and support from virtually all nations around the world (including Muslim ones), we would have responded differently? Or what if Israel would have avoided disproportionate and indiscriminate attacks on the two million citizens of Gaza after the brutal October 7 terrorist attacks? Many of them are refugees and over half of them are innocent children, all packed together in an area a fraction of the size of Rockingham County, 

   

While there are no easy answers, one thing seems clear. Using violent and evil means to rid the world of violence and evil—and evildoers—appears to have only perpetuated more evil, and has proven to be not only a costly failure, but has created fanatical martyrs and contributed to the rise of Isis, Hezbollah, Hamas and other terrorist groups.
   

In the 19th century Red Cloud was among the native chiefs who chose to resist the westward expansion of the U.S. (justified by the church’s “Doctrine of Discovery”) using every means possible to preserve the land and way of life of native peoples. Under his leadership tribal warriors resorted to mercilessly scalping and butchering white occupiers, men, women and children, in horrific ways, and US forces retaliated in an equal and ultimately overwhelming way.
     

All people, especially the children of godly nomads like Abraham and Sarah, should know that lasting peace can be achieved only through creating more justice and equity in the world, though eliminating extreme poverty and through having legitimate human needs met for adequate land, food, shelter and healthcare for all.
     

In the words of an ancient Hebrew prophet, 
“I hate, I despise your feasts,
    and I take no delight in your solemn assemblies…
But let justice roll down like waters,
    and righteousness like an ever-flowing stream." 

Amos 5:21-24 (ESV)

Meditation At The Burial Of A Beloved Sister, 87

Magdalena "Maggie" Yoder Schrock 1936-2023 was laid
to rest today at the Oak Hill Mennonite Church cemetery
near Cumberland, Virginia. 

I shared this meditation today at the graveside of my very special sister and lifelong best friend:

This is such an emotional moment for me, but as someone has said, to be able to really cry we need someone to cry with. All of you gathered here today are people I need to cry with, to mourn the loss and to celebrate the life of our dear sister Maggie.

   It seems like only yesterday that we met here at this beautiful little Eden here at the Oak Hill Church to bury Maggie’s beloved Alvin. Now today we lay to rest our precious Maggie beside her husband of 67 years, in a space shaded by trees, a place so inviting to some of Maggie’s favorite things—birds and wildflowers, bees and butterflies, green grass and beautiful fall leaves. She loved nature and gardening, and loved people, loved her family and friends and neighbors far and wide, and above all she loved God. 

   I’ve been so blessed by growing up in the warm circle of her kind and sweet spirit, been blessed by having a next older sister who looked after me, cared for me, loved me, worked and played with me, took time to talk with me, sang with me, encouraged me, and over the years sent us so many wonderful letters and cards, all expressions of her heartfelt faith and hope and love.

   For our wedding she gave us a beautiful oil painting of this nature scene she created as a special gift for Alma Jean and me nearly 60 years ago. We’ll miss her talents and her many gifts freely shared with family, friends and neighbors and with the students she taught and loved here at the Oak Hill School.      

   Since we're just 3 years apart in age Maggie and I shared many first things together, our first  train trip to Virginia when our family moved to the Shenandoah Valley from Kansas, our first school bus ride to the Stuarts Draft Elementary school with 400 some students, so scary compared to the one room school we attended together in Kansas. Childhood and youth were full of first things.

   Now we are experiencing last things, last children leaving home, last full time work, last years of robust health and energy. Maggie has been just ahead of me in losing her good hearing, her 20-20 eyesight and her good heart health, and now we are here for a last farewell, Maggie having drawn her last breath. The days and years between first things and last things have gone by “swifter than a weaver’s shuttle,” as Job once lamented. 

   Over the past months as we and all of her beloved children and grandchildren became ever more aware of Maggie’s failing health, including her failing heart that finally just gave out. So we were becoming prepared  to see her go, but I for one still haven’t been ready to see her gone, my last remaining sibling, even though we know she’s with God and all is good.       Maggie has gone ahead of us but she‘ll always be with us, will live on in us and through us in all the ways she has blessed, enriched and influenced our lives for good, and for God.

   By faith we also claim, as Maggie did, Job’s words of assurance, “I know that my Redeemer lives, and that in the end he will stand upon the earth. And after we awake, though our body has been destroyed, yet in our flesh we will see God.” 

   So may we share with Maggie the unwavering faith she demonstrated and passed on, that 

The Lord is our Shepherd, we shall not want,

He makes us lie down in green pastures, 

He leads us beside still waters,

He restores our souls,

He leads us in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake,

Yea though we walk in the valley of the shadow of death

we will fear no evil, for you are with us

Your rod and staff protect and comfort us

You prepare a table for us in the presence of our enemies

You anoint our heads with healing oil

our cups are full to overflowing

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow us 

all the days of our lives

And we shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever and ever. 

Amen.

Here is a link to Maggie's obituary: https://www.hamnermcmillian.com/obituary/magdalena-schrock

Some Reflections After the 2023 VA Relief Sale

Inside joke at a recent SOS committee
meeting: "We'll know God's kingdom has
come when the lines at the MCC giving table
are as long as those lined up for donuts."

1. We're truly grateful for the "Sharing Our Surplus" (SOS) monetary contributions made at the Virginia Mennonite Relief Sale giving table this year. The total raised there was $36,492.86, a slight increase over 2022, when we had our first $10,000 donor. This year we had another (different) couple who gave the same amount. 

2. Yet we haven't been able to substantially increase the percentage of sale attendees who donate (around 1.5% of the estimated 4000 present this year). Fortunately, the 59 individuals who did made SOS designated gifts were very generous, as follows: 

Number of donors and donor amounts
1- $10,000
2- $2500
2- $2000
3- $1000
1- $600
5- $500
1- $400
1- $300
1- $250
4- $200
12- $100-150
26- $1-75

Others who made smaller contributions all helped add to the total, SOS giving amounting to around 10% of what the Relief Sale will send to MCC this year, all without any overhead costs.

An additional $400 of SOS giving was on the Relief Sale website, plus over $2000 was received in direct deposits through the Park View Federal Credit Union.

3.The donor who blessed us most this year was Wakuru, who looked to be around a second grader of likely middle eastern origin (and maybe once a refugee himself?) who came to the Everence sponsored gift table with a big smile and a crumpled $1 bill. We see him as one of our greatest givers!

4. The quart size giving jars we had at various business and other locations in the weeks prior to the sale raised only around $140, well below last year's numbers, and these same jars placed at different venues at the sale itself brought in just under $15, so we will need to evaluate whether to continue using those.

5. Some fear that the sale itself, for most people, becomes more a matter of getting than actually giving, whether attendees are gaining an excess of good food or gaining more additional possessions like quilts, crafts, furniture, etc. Having said that, most attendees willingly give significantly more for these items than they could purchase them otherwise, so that extra can certainly be counted as a generous gift to help people in need. But the people who create and donate these items are the major givers, as are those who donate untold amounts of time in making this celebratory event possible.

6. I did have one friend on Facebook comment on one of my posts promoting the relief sale, "Perhaps MCC could organize a day of fasting following the relief sale. The 'pig out for world hunger' message always sits strangely with me... people could fast and donate the day after the sale in a way that benefits their bodies and souls." My response was that I would love for that to happen! Perhaps we could encourage all of the members of our supporting churches to at least skip breakfast that Sunday morning and then have a rice and beans noon meal together at the church and take up a huge collection to add to the money sent to MCC. 

What do you think?

Are Churches Infecting Us With Jesus' Message Or Inoculating Us From It?

 

Sam Funkhouser, a native of Shenandoah County,
is a member of the Old German Baptist Brethren,
New Conference, and is the executive director of
the Brethren/Mennonite Heritage Center.

"Our US economy is fundamentally at odds with the gospel...  As average Americans we are a part of the most affluent society the world has ever known... We live like royalty, enjoy a level of prosperity that is unjust and unsustainable, and that is predicated on the poverty of others...  Nothing could be more clear in the teachings of Jesus and the prophets than a condemnation of this kind of wealth."

You could have heard a pin drop as Sam Funkhouser spoke those words at a recent monthly meeting of Virginia Mennonite Retirement Community's Elder Exchange. Few of us gathered at the Detwiler Auditorium were used to hearing these kinds of prophetic words from our pulpits.

Which raises the question of whether our churches have become all too complicit in immunizing us from Jesus's liberating good news of a more simple and celebratory way to live in the Babylon that is America.

Which has me raising the following questions:

• Are millionaires made to feel more at home in our congregations than people living in poverty?

• Are our stewardship sermons and Sunday School conversations more about offering charity than about creating equity and promoting justice?

• Are we we being assured of our right to continue increasing our wealth year by year or are we being urged to heed Jesus's call to decrease our wealth in favor of storing up treasure in heaven?

• Do we see the millions of children of God in the global south as deserving the same access to adequate food, shelter and medical care as we feel entitled to? 

• Is anyone raising serious questions about our churches and church-related institutions investing ever more of their budgets in state of the art facilities and programs that are creating an ever widening disparity between the world's privileged and the impoverished?

• And are we becoming increasingly comfortable with being increasingly comfortable and complacent?

Here's a link to the October 12 Elder Exchange event at VMRC https://vimeo.com/872662179?share=copy.

Guest Post: A Heartfelt Letter To The President

We should welcome all of the information possible as
we pray for, and seek to influence, people in positions
of power, urging them to help bring about a just peace
in a part of God's world torn by decades of violence. 

I post the following with the permission of retired seminary professor Dorothy Jean Weaver, who has led 21 educational and/or work group tours of the Holy Land and felt led to write this letter to her president:

October 10, 2023 

President Joseph R. Biden 

The White House, 

1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, N.W., 

Washington, DC, 20500 

Dear Mr. President, 

I write to you as an American citizen, a regular voter, and a person who has traveled almost annually to Israel/Palestine over the past quarter century. Since January 1996, I have witnessed, up close and personal and over and over again, the profound challenges posed by the now 56-year-and-counting brutal military occupation of the Palestinian people by the Israeli Defense Forces. 

Now—after 56 years of Israeli military occupation, supported massively by the US government, and after 16 years of an inhumane siege of the entire civilian population of Gaza, trapped as they are in an open-air prison with virtually no means of “escape”—an almost unthinkably vicious and violent act has taken place. Palestinian fighters from Gaza have now turned the tables on the Israeli occupiers, taken events into their own hands, invaded Israel by multiple means, and brutally massacred hundreds of Israelis. 

 In response to this vicious attack, the full power of the Israeli military is now trained directly on Gaza and its two million Palestinian civilians, trapped there in circumstances widely recognized as unlivable, without means of escape, without bomb shelters or an “iron dome” to protect them from Israeli bombing, and, as per the notice of Israeli Prime Minister Binyamin Netanyahu, without food, water, or electricity. 

Mr. President, in no way and by no means do I support the vicious acts of Hamas in murdering citizens of Israel. As a follower of Jesus, I do not support violence of any kind by humans against other humans.

 

But it does not take a degree in international affairs to recognize that the present circumstances are the recipe for a large-scale human catastrophe and, what is even more culpable, massive human rights abuses enacted collectively against an entire population. But vis-à-vis this looming human and human rights catastrophe, you, Mr. President, have seen fit only to “add more fuel to the fire” and to send even more weapons and military capability to the State of Israel to attack the besieged people of Gaza. 

Mr. President, have you completely lost your moral compass? Are you truly willing to make the United States complicit in the massive human rights abuses even now being perpetrated on the civilian population of Gaza, let alone in the wider human catastrophe to come? 

 This is the time, not for making more war, but rather for taking the courageous steps needed to finally and completely dismantle the 56-year-and-counting military occupation of the Palestinian people by the State of Israel and to use the considerable power and influence of the United States to work at establishing a sturdy basis for justice and peace for Israelis and Palestinians alike. 

 Sincerely, 

 Dorothy Jean Weaver

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P.S. Here's some links to share your own message:

https://www.whitehouse.gov/get-involved/write-or-call/

https://www.senate.gov/senators/senators-contact.htm

https://www.house.gov/representatives/find-your-representative

https://cmep.org/takeaction/action-alerts/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwm66pBhDQARIsALIR2zDQ7K-DnBEud7YCwqO4Jw0UfajC8eg_GR7xNRrcuE_Ru9OTyMej738aAiI_EALw_wcB 

"First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for everyone, for kings and all who are in high positions, so that we may lead a quiet and peaceful life in all godliness and dignity."               Paul, I Timothy 2:1-2 (NRSV)

Prisoner Raises Over $1000 For World Relief

Popsicle sticks, pebbles and other other odds and ends in 
and around Building 2A went into this amazing contribution to
the Virginia Mennonite Relief's effort to raise funds for
Mennonite Central Committee.

The following post is by a local incarcerated friend whose artistic work was sold at the October 6-7 Relief Sale auction for a gratifying $1050.

Title: "Crucifixion Week"

B. Brubaker

Dillwyn Correctional Center

Hometown: Harrisonburg, VA

I must recognize my peers at DWCC, in Building 2A, who contributed in some manner to the timely and successful completion of my 2023 donation to the Virginia Mennonite Relief Sale. One man in particular, Tim Burnopp, took my ideas and made them come to fruition as he painted the underside of the lid that becomes the backdrop when the box is opened during the spring when we honor the sacrifice of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I have more than 700 hours of artistic focus in this year's project along with the hours Tim Burnopp had in the paintings. My peers also helped pick up pebbles on the yard, made the linens in tomb, and gave me tidbits of yarn and other items that I used in the making of this creation. A big thank you to my peers at DWCC, dorm 2A, who contributed in some manner.

I attempted to make the outside of the closed box look like a medieval papal strongbox used to transport the church's treasury or significant decrees. I made the faux jade stone out of pink erasers and capped the stone with halved pencils that I must soak in boiling water for the glue to release that holds a pencil together. I dispose of the pencil lead and use the small pencil top erasers split in half on other projects. This year I accented or created the wood grain with a black wash paint and then added some gold metallic paint along these striations to give the trim pieces a gilded look. The narrative unfolding inside the box is certainly precious to all who believe in Jesus Christ who transformed God's first covenant made with Abraham and his descendants.

The perspective I created when the box is open is of the viewer standing inside the City of Jerusalem looking outward. A sojourner sent me a photo of Jerusalem's, Jaffa Gate, where the road to Emmaus exits Jerusalem. I did my best to match the city's wall design though my stones were quite different in shape and my space limited. On the inside of the city wall lying about the street or leaned up against the wall are painted palm branches that I imagine the children were still playing with days after Jesus road into the city on a donkey, His triumphant entry.

Exiting the city to the left is a road that leads past the representation of the Garden of Gethsemane and on up the hill to Golgotha. I imagine that most gardens in this arid landscape need a water source so I placed a spring coming out of the rocky point upon which Christ was crucified. The spring giving life to the vine in the garden that grows seemingly out of the stone. There are many metaphors tied to this spring, the paramount one being Christ being our source of "living water." In the garden I placed one plant, a climbing wild rose, as Christ is referred to as, "The Rose of Sharon." Christ refers to Himself as the vine in several passages in the New Testament and for this reason I chose to define the Garden of Gethsemane in this manner. Though seasonally it may not have been the time for the roses to blossom, my artist's mind likes to think that Christ's tears shed that night in the garden and His blood running down the cross touching the vine burst the vine into glorious bloom. 

Moving to the left past the Garden of Gethsemane, the path begins to climb the rocky point known as Golgotha. The path trodden up this hill is soiled and likely stained by the blood of many men who had died at the hands of the Romans who had conquered Jerusalem. At the top of the incline are two women depicted of the many who were likely there witnessing Christ's crucifixion. I chose to make Mary, the mother of Jesus kneeling, and Mary Magdalene standing consoling her. Behind these two women is the first mural that holds events taking place prior to Christ's crucifixion. In this first painting is a representation of Christ driving the money changers out of the temple. Next to that is a table that holds a cup of wine and a loaf of bread. Under the table is a water pitcher, basin, and towel. Together representing the last supper.

Centered on the promenade of the rocky point is Christ with the two thieves on each side of Him. The middle mural depicts the darkness as the day turned to night when God turned away from the sin Christ bore for us on the cross. At this moment the Temple veil tore as Christ became our forever intercessory, through Him we can enter into the Father's presence. During this darkness, Christ defeats Death and takes back the keys which are painted in the lower right of the middle mural.

Behind Christ and the two thieves are two Roman soldiers, one with the sword that pierced His side. Behind the thief on the right are two of the disciples, in my mind the two men who traveled back to Emmaus very discouraged and confused about the death of Jesus. The entire right-hand side of the mural and the right interior of the box is about the resurrection of Jesus Christ. The empty tomb, Christ's ascension, and my favorite event of Easter, the reference to the men walking home to Emmaus from Jerusalem.

None of the 80 men in my dorm, except for one, knew the story of Christ joining these two distraught men on their journey home to Emmaus. Working on this year's project became an opportunity for me to share with my peers here the motivations for sitting these 3 months focused on this project day and night. My most asked question was, "Why don't you sell it on eBay and make some money?" The closer the project came to its completion, the more I saw the value of the process as a means to share with others what God has done for me, my testimony, and introduce them to a Savior that promises them that He will lighten their burdens. Thinking about these interactions with my peers here caused me to inscribe John 3:16 on the interior of the removable panel because that is the ultimate quantifier of what took place when Christ was crucified. I can, but hope, someone will view my creation, seeing all that He suffered for us, sparking in them a desire to define in their own mind what these events mean to them.

It is with great wonder, excitement, and joy that I release this project into His hands for His purpose in helping others in need, whatever their need may be. It is an honor and a privilege to give back to the One who is my provision and protection on this ardent journey. I am only able to express my journey through artistic endeavors because of my sojourners, who enable me to purchase the many items used in my creations. I thank them for making it possible to express my journey and to share with others what God inspires me to make within my constraints. 

For His Glory, Bear Brubaker