When it comes to the issue of sexual abuse in church families and by church leaders, we tend to be deeply divided. There are the minimizers, who insist that this kind of darkness could almost never be happening with good people like ourselves. On the other side are the maximizers, who insist that incest, sexual harassment, sexual abuse and other forms of sexual misconduct are just as prevalent among Anabaptist and other Christian groups than with the population at large, and likely even more so.
In spite of much agonizing over this issue by Mennonite sociologists, pastors, scholars and laypersons, what I find strikingly lacking is the hard and necessary work of getting us some good hard data, which has us relying on anecdotes and on our individual hunches. We need to first have facts in order to face facts, and should never shrink from the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
And then to do whatever is necessary to address any and all darkness among us. Decisively. Purposefully. Period.
Some will say this can never work, that any such research will be fatally flawed because traumatized individuals won't have the courage to tell their truth, even on an anonymous questionnaire. Maybe, but that can be true of all research.
I want to believe that in light of the breath of fresh air and new light brought about by the MeToo movement and by more and more women coming forward with their abuse stories, participating in a survey could be seen as a welcome opportunity on the part of many to finally having their grievances taken seriously.
One serious attempt at getting at some facts was undertaken several decades ago. In 1993 some EMU faculty members (then EMC) distributed a widely used instrument developed by Dr. Mary Koss of Kent State University to a random sample of 136 male and 131 female first-year students at EMC, Goshen and Hesston Colleges, and with a 90% response rate.
I have in my files only the results of those who self-identified as Mennonites and who reported unwanted sexual experiences prior to age 14. In this study, 25 years ago of course, the results showed far fewer cases of childhood sexual abuse than the researchers expected when compared to national numbers. But at least one concerning result was cases of young teens being molested by older teen friends and acquaintances.
Here are the actual examples from the study who reported being victimized before age 14 by unwanted sexual contacts:
1. Female under 14 felt victimized by being fondled by an older teen step-brother twice over a period of a year.
2. Male, at 7, felt very victimized by attempted intercourse on the part of two different older teens.
3. Female, at 11 or 12, victimized by having an older teen age brother of her friend fondle her.
4. Male, at 13, experienced forced intercourse by a male friend in his thirties who were friends of his parents. This happened five or more times over a period of two weeks, resulting in his feeling traumatized and victimized.
5. Female, at 12, was fondled by a teen-age male friend of the family three times over a period of several months.
One other male reported having a variety of sexual experiences over a year's time with a cousin when both were 12, but did not report feeling victimized. Another male had five or six similar experiences with a male and also a female of the same age (13) over a period of six months to a year, but did not report feeling victimized.
My first response to these findings was one of shock. Knowing actual cases of child sexual abuse in families we have served at the agency where I work, some of whom we have had to personally report to Child Protective Services, I expected a different result.
But my aim is not to critique the people who did the research above, nor to the nationally recognized Koss instrument they were using. My concern is about getting some good research done today that would help bring more light and more clarity to the ongoing problem of sexual abuse among us, involving people of all ages.
That truth will at least be a start toward setting us free.
Mennonite pastor and counselor Harvey Yoder blogs on faith, life, family, spirituality, relationships, values, peace and social justice.
Tuesday, January 23, 2018
Sunday, January 21, 2018
Hard Time Virginia, Volume III, Number 1
September and October Parole Releases at an All-Time Low, November and December Numbers More Encouraging
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| As people age, the likelihood of their committing crimesgreatly decreases. |
For some inexplicable reason, the Virginia Parole Board released only five persons in September and none in October, according to their official monthly posts on their website. However, the numbers for November were more encouraging. Of the several hundred cases reviewed, 36 resulted in a release, and of these, seven were geriatric inmates. December was even more promising, with 79 releases, ten being geriatric, but for some reason only one female was on the entire list.
With an increasing number of Virginia inmates in their 70's and older who are in declining health, one wonders why greater efforts are not made to provide compassionate release for those persons.
Study Indicates Annual Cost of Incarceration Exceeds $1 Trillion
The following is from a December, 2017, article by Audry Spade in PRISON LEGAL NEWS:
A new research study has estimated the total cost of incarceration in the United States has surged to a staggering $1 trillion per year - eleven times the $80 billion spent annually on corrections alone, and 6% of the nation's gross domestic product (GDP).
For many families across the United States, the high cost of incarceration is nothing new. But while prior research has made an effort to determine the total cost of crime, it wasn't until recently, in a study conducted by the Institute for Advancing Justice Research and Innovation at Washington University in St. Louis, that the various societal costs of incarceration were factored in - things like lost wages and increased criminology among the children of incarcerated parents, as well as other collateral expenses.
Indeed, it turns out the true cost of removing millions of people from their communities and confining them in detention facilities across the nation is costing more than anyone had estimated previously.
Perhaps even more alarming, researchers also found that more than half of those costs are being shouldered directly by prisoners, their families and their communities - leaving already poor households even more impoverished. Many affected families live beneath the federal poverty line as it is, and are the same families that struggle the most beneath the massive financial burdens of incarceration - everything from paying bail bonds and raising the children of incarcerated parents, to the costs of prison and jail phone calls and fees to place money on prisoners' institutional accounts.
How All Prisons Are "For Profit"
While Virginia has only one official "for profit" prison, the Lawrenceville Correctional Center, every local jail and Department of Corrections prison seems bent on extracting more and more money from inmates and from their families.
Our local jail, for example, charges a $1 a day "rent" that families have to pay if their loved one is to be able to have funds in their account for over-priced commissary items, phone calls, and copays for health care and prescriptions. At the Middle River Regional Jail, where inmates from our jail are sent due to overcrowding here, the charge is an outrageous $3 per day, a major hardship on family members who, after all, aren't the ones who have committed the crime. And family members using the required kiosk to deposit money in an inmate account are charged $4 per transaction.
Meanwhile, some 40% of local inmates are awaiting their hearings, and should be presumed innocent until proven otherwise.
The following examples of how the commonwealth of Virginia's Department of Corrections reap "profits" comes from a long time inmate at Buckingham Correctional Center:
1) A percentage of prisoners incoming money is taken by jails and prisons for processing fees.
2) When an inmate is transported to and from a destination, they are billed for the use of the automobile or other vehicle and the officers' time.
3) Inmates are charged copays for dental and health care.
4) Inmates are charged outrageously high prices for commissary items and phone service.
5) Any interest received from inmate accounts is pocketed by the institution..
6) Institutions are profiting from prisoner labor because they only pay between $0.27 and $0.80 cents per hour to complete strenuous jobs (minimum wage in Virginia is $7.25) and prisons profit while creating crafty schemes to cause prisoners to give all their money back to the institution. Prisoners also build furniture, refill ink cartridges, operate machinery, etc., that DOC receives regular pay for from state agencies. DOC does not provide prisoners workers compensation if they are injured while on the job. They do not have a social security fund to help them when they are too old to work any longer. Inmates who work in are not provided prescription safety glasses or steel-toed work boots. DOC requires inmates to pay for them if they want them. They are not allowed thermal tops or bottoms unless they buy their own from a for-profit vendor. Inmates who work for VCE Enterprises are not provided prepaid prescription safety glasses.
7) The DOC profits from for-profit companies such as Global Tel Link (GTL), JPay, Inc., Keefe Commissary Network Sales, and the GEO Group.
8) Virginia also profits from offenders based on the Code of Virginia section 53.1-41(B) which now requires the Virginia Department of Corrections (VDOC) to withhold funds from inmate pay to be applied toward any court imposed fines, costs, forfeitures, restitution, or penalties they may owe. This includes from program participation including work, treatment, and education.
9) Institutional employees are fed free meals from the prisoners food budget, and staff are served better meals than inmates.
10) VDOC profits when the kitchen manager does not adequately replace broken or damaged cups, hot boxes, trays, utensils and etc. as required.
11) VDOC profits whenever the kitchen manager does not ensure that inmates are provided their proper calorie and vitamin count in each meal by cutting portion sizes and/or not providing condiments.
12) VDOC profits when the kitchen manager does not ensure that the prisoners are fed at an appropriate time. Sometimes prisoners are fed at 3:30 pm and are not fed again until after 6:30 am. It is generally later which means over fifteen hours between meals, so kitchen staff can leave the institution at an earlier time.
13) VDOC profits when the kitchen manager requires that workers who miss a day from work have to visit the facility physician before returning to work in the kitchen. This seems like a scam because medical charges a $5.00 sick call copay for this.
14) VDOC profits from prisoner telephone use.
15) VDOC profits by no longer issuing soap to prisoners who have received at least $5.00 during a given month. VDOC once provided everyone a bar of soap weekly to promote proper hygiene. Some now refuse to spend their money on soap.
16) VDOC profits from JPAY media sales and email use.
17) VDOC profits from inmates' incoming monies. Currently, VDOC does not allow money orders to be sent to inmates even though each facility should be operated by a trusted business office. Whoever is wanting to send their loved ones money must mail money orders via snail mail free or electronically via email it to the for-profit company JPay, Inc., for an expensive fee to be sent to the prisoner via snail mail or by email electronically to the prisoner.
DOC used to not be allowed to profit from inmates. Now it seems like everything they do is for profit.
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"Birth of a Criminal"
by 71-year-old blind poet and inmate Minor Junior Smith
Deerfield Correctional Center
From an overcrowded prison behind blind eyes, my autobiography must unfold.
May actualities about my past have been doubted, many others untold.
Incarcerated in Virginia I am haunted by events from age three,
But first, I'll reveal bits of information about my parents ans who delivered me.
Since my parents enjoyed farming, in 1940 they bought and move on to a fond one,
For the sake of characterization, father's name will appear as Richard Johnson.
In 1943 his and mother's baby daughter perished in a traffic house fire up there.
Rena was born in a barn in 1944 while a new house was being built for the pair.
May 3rd, 1946, father's stepmother delivered me; I was mother's only real son,
Our small home in Montgomery County was beside the rocky top of Dark Run.
Those pictures of me when I was a baby proved that I was in excellent health,
And I was suffieciently provided for by my father, who possessed a normal wealth.
I never did know why my mother had chosen to separate from my father, to this day,
Yet future comments about it would make me thing I was the one who had to pay.
With $200 mother took my two sisters and me to West Virginia when I was three
Then in some way twelve-year-old Loretta parted from five-year-old Rena and me.
While we stayed there with mother's relatives I did not see a cow or a churn,
I stood too closely to a stove and each leg became inflicted by a serious burn.
The net thing I remember knowing was that ride in Uncle Henry Johnson's car,
Although he took mother, Rena and me back up Dark Hollow Road, we did not ride far.
A black man's house squatted between two roads which led to Poor Mountain,
His and Uncle Kelvin's family shared the same spring, their only water fountain.
We stopped ath the bladk man's abode after Uncle Henry had spoken to mother,
"You kids go to your granny's," she said, "Henry doesn't want to go further."
Rena and I passed three farms on the hollow's left road to start a new life,
Mother had said that daddy would take us to live with ole Elsa Pratt, his new wife.
For our little feet and legs, a trip to Granny Johnson's cabin was a long way,
Our sister had drawn spring water that morning, was one thing granny had to say.
Having eaten gravy and bread we rode in daddy's truck which was big and black,
He took us all home after he had picked up Loretta at his daddy's nearby shack.
Mother had taken half of the money daddy had saved in a post of their bedstead,
Maybe that's why I had to share a contemptuous and disturbed step-mama instead.
In the kitchen I quoted mama by calling her"Ole Elsa Pratt!" when we met,
Mama would label her former pediatrician a "horse doctor", a slang title for a vet.
I would be hearing complaints about an agonizing hysterectomy she'd gone through.
However, when began by setting forth good principles for us to follow that she knew.
In my belief the results of her surgery caused me and other people much harm,
Occasionally when we three Johnson children played it caused her great alarm.
Her usual irrational behavior was almost entirely influenced by spite,
This would cause my mind to be compelled by envy, fear, lust, strife!
Daddy earned $250 a week in the early 50's, but he was still meek and mild,
Two of his seven daughters had perished in infancy, and I was his youngest child.
He handed Rena and me each a pet after he returned home in his big truck,
Immediately step-mama drowned Rena's baby chick having first drowned my baby duck.
Loretta cared for me, leaned our house or chopped wood and probably a whistle,
I couldn't understand why she put hot water in Loretta's yellow bird whistle.
Mama didn't like Loretta's looks, so daddy returned her to grandaddy's shack,
Our sister visited Rena and me a few times, but afterwards she never came back.
She would be shifted from one welfare home to another throughout several years,
Even if she was at least she no longer had to cope with Elsa's abusive jeers.
Eventually in Fishersville Loretta became a practical nurse,
As for Rena and me, our tormented lives around mama varied from better to worse.
As for Rena and me, our tormented lives around mama varied from better to worse.
Friday, January 19, 2018
Repost: "Why I'm Still Loving Jesus"
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| I used this interesting photo when I first posted this piece in 2011. |
Jesus hung with hookers, hung with hustlers, not with cops
and he made wine from water, so the party wouldn’t stop,
and Jesus, he loved everyone, just like his Mom and Dad
‘cause Jesus knew the difference between broken and plain bad...
Jesus on the hillside had a message for the crowd
he said, “blessed are the brokenhearted, but woe unto the proud,”
and when they all got hungry, he took a couple loaves of bread
and he passed himself around till everybody had been fed...
Jesus in the temple yard trashed every loan shark’s booth,
but Jesus said to Judas, “let those little children through,
‘cause Jesus hung with losers and with posers and with narcs,
and he got what was coming to him somewhere in the dark…
- from my son Brad Yoder’s WWJD? 1998 all rights reserved
In case anyone wonders why I remain passionate about following Jesus, here are just a few of my reasons:
1. Jesus never hated people or committed acts of violence against them. Rather, he taught his followers to practice prayer and good deeds even toward enemies, not harm or kill them.
2. Jesus demonstrated a life of simplicity and generosity. He never advocated amassing wealth or becoming financially well to do. He not only stressed compassion for the poor, but chose to become one of them.
3. Jesus consistently preached and practiced care for the marginalized and disenfranchised. Even in a strictly patriarchal society he had women as close followers, and regularly enjoyed meals with people regarded as outcasts and misfits. He makes a hated and heretical Samaritan the hero in one of his best known parables, a story he uses as part of his answer to the question, “How does one gain eternal life?”
4. Jesus avoided dogmatic sermonizing and theologizing in favor of telling simple stories and teaching easy-to-understand (but hard to practice) truths like “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” “Blessed are the peacemakers,” “Do not hoard/store up treasures on earth,” and “Let your ‘yes’ be a simple ‘yes,’ and your ‘no,’ a ‘no.’
5. Jesus rejected expressions of worship that require elaborate temples, complex liturgies, and professional clergy. Private prayer is encouraged, and “two or three” are sufficient when it comes to communal prayer and worship.
6. Jesus demonstrates that God loves everyone, and that his “Father,” far from condemning the world, is heaven-bent on saving it.
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As Jesus went on from there, he saw a man named Matthew sitting at the tax collector’s booth. “Follow me,” he told him, and Matthew got up and followed him.
While Jesus was having dinner at Matthew’s house, many tax collectors and sinners came and ate with him and his disciples. When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?”
On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”
- Matthew 9:9-13 (NIV)
Tuesday, January 16, 2018
A Royal Case Of Corruption, Scandal, Lies And Cover-ups
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| Prophet Nathan to David: "You are the guilty one." |
These are all a part of the sordid affair of the biblical King David, who sought to cover up his sin with Bathsheba by having her husband killed in battle.
The story reminds me of some of the growing darkness we see in high places today, accompanied by similar attempts to deny, minimize, excuse and cover-up.
A primary difference between many of today's transgressors and of David, however, is how he comes to a place of thorough repentance for his misdeeds. Psalm 51, written in the form of an anguished lament, is an example of his willingness to maximize, rather than to minimize, his wrongdoing.
That's the missing piece in many of today's tales of sexual transgressions. And to make matters worse, the church may add to the problem by wanting to keep things as quiet as possible in order to protect its reputation.
We should be all about repair and redemption, but never as in "let's just forgive, forget and pretend this never happened." Rather than applying bandaids and quick fixes, the church's work of restoration needs to involve all of the following:
1. Full acknowledgment and remorse. "Have pity on me and take away the awful stain of my transgressions... I admit my shameful deed...it haunts me day and night."
2. Restitution in whatever ways possible. "Make me willing to obey you. Then will I teach your ways to others..."
3. Ongoing transparency and accountability. "You deserve honesty from the heart; yes, utter sincerity and truthfulness."
The church, like its founder, is about holding a high standard of both truth and grace, of toughness and tenderness, of uncompromising standards of right and gracious offers of healing. If we are not about restoring and repairing people guilty of all manner of sin we are not truly followers of Jesus, who never saw anyone as beyond the reach of God's redemption--unless maybe those who self-righteously deny their own need for it.
Meanwhile, let's make sure we get this redemption thing right.
(above quotations from Psalm 51 are from the Living Bible)
Sunday, January 14, 2018
Mr. Swedish, Can You Spare My Sister A Dime?
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| My sister meeting with her grown adopted daughter Nina, now in adult foster care. |
"Woe to you who are rich, for you have had your fill of happiness."
My 85-year-old sister Fannie Mae in Augusta County was recently notified that all of her health providers who are a part of the Augusta Health system are no longer accepting Anthem insurance, which administers Medicare and Medicaid funds. This means she will need to find other providers or find other insurance coverage. Neither option is realistic or available. Fortunately, her family and church family are able and willing to help as needed.
- Jesus (Luke 6:24)
My 85-year-old sister Fannie Mae in Augusta County was recently notified that all of her health providers who are a part of the Augusta Health system are no longer accepting Anthem insurance, which administers Medicare and Medicaid funds. This means she will need to find other providers or find other insurance coverage. Neither option is realistic or available. Fortunately, her family and church family are able and willing to help as needed.
Augusta Health's position is that they should be reimbursed at the same level Anthem is paying for the same procedures at nearby University of Virginia and elsewhere. Anthem is refusing to do so, and so far the two sides haven't been able to come to an agreement, which leaves people like my sister in a quandary, and the rest of us in a state of confusion.
Fannie Mae, a retired registered nurse and certified midwife, has worked hard all of her adult life providing quality health care for others, both in the states and in two terms of service abroad, first
in Belize and then in Paraguay. She is single and the mother of a special needs individual she adopted years ago from a home for unwanted children in Asuncion.
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| Fannie Mae as a nurse (1972 family photo) |
Meanwhile, my sister needs ongoing and sometimes expensive treatment for her heart condition and for her macular degeneration.
What makes this situation maddening is that Anthem Blue Cross/Blue Shield earned $2.5 billion in net income in 2016, resulting in Chairman and CEO Joseph Swedish being awarded a 21 percent pay hike, upping the value of his compensation package to an annual $16.5 million.
You and I both know no one needs that kind of income. No one.
I hope we also agree that people like my sister deserve the same kind of affordable health care available to other aging adults in our society.
Friday, January 12, 2018
Your SOS Contributions Put Relief Sale Proceeds Over The Top
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| Knowing that millions have to live like this should break our hearts--and open our wallets. |
Sharing our Surplus was an effort to encourage more of the 10,000 who attend the sale, but who don't take part in the annual auction, to make a donation to Mennonite Central Committee for relief needs via cash, check or credit card.
The result this year was a largest ever net sale income of $350,606.04, compared to last year's near record of $322,505.57.
Let's pray that next year, in light of desperate and growing world relief needs, we can double that amount. Or maybe reach a $1 million.
Meanwhile, we can each contribute directly to Mennonite Central Committee online or send a much needed check today to MCC, 21 South 12th Street, P.O. Box 500, Akron, PA 17501-0500.
Tuesday, January 9, 2018
"Many Antichrists Have Already Appeared"
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| What kind of lifestyle would Jesus approve? |
- I John 2:18 (NEB )
In these troubling times, as always, the test of whether someone is faithful to God is not whether or how often they say "Lord, Lord", but whether they truly follow Jesus in their daily life.
So let's apply Jesus's Beatitudes test, starting with ourselves. Are we living in the spirit of the Sermon on the Mount or by such "Me-attitudes" as the following anti-Christian beliefs?
Blessed are the haughty and the wealthy, for theirs is the promise of heaven on earth.
Blessed are those who maintain an "I'm-always-right", arrogant spirit, for they will enjoy universal acclaim.
Blessed are the proud and powerful, for they shall be lauded as the greatest winners on earth.
Blessed are the greedy, the grabbers, the graspers, for they shall be acclaimed by those who seek to emulate them in their pursuit of wealth.
Blessed are the merciless and the militarily mighty, for they shall be feared and revered as the greatest.
Blessed are men who are pleasure-seeking and sexually aggressive, for they shall be admired as Alpha males.
Blessed are the warmongers, for they shall be seen as maintaining law and order through military might.
Blessed are those who are admired and praised by the masses, for theirs is the power to rule over them.
Blessed are you when millions revere you, show deference to you, and who flatter you, falsely or otherwise. Rejoice and be very glad! Great are your rewards!
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| "No one can know Christ truly unless they follow him daily in life." - Hans Denck |
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