"If I want kinship with my Anabaptist ancestors, I know where to look: in prison."
- title of an article by Melissa Florer-Bixler in the January 2025 issue of The Christian Century
Mennonite pastor and counselor Harvey Yoder blogs on faith, life, family, spirituality, relationships, values, peace and social justice. Views expressed here are his own.
"If I want kinship with my Anabaptist ancestors, I know where to look: in prison."
- title of an article by Melissa Florer-Bixler in the January 2025 issue of The Christian Century
Barlis authors one of many good books on how to overcome irrational fears. |
If we were truly a Christian nation, we would be asking questions like "For whom would the crucified Jesus seek the death penalty?" (Wikipedia map) |
Isaac Blessing Jacob, a 1635 painting by Matthias Stom. (Wikipedia) |
Tragically, he finds that Isaac, his aging and almost blind father, has been tricked into giving the coveted blessing to his younger brother Jacob.
When Isaac realizes he was conned, he "trembles violently," knowing that the birthright blessing, once given, can never be revoked.
Esau, beyond devastated, let’s out a loud, agonizing cry, weeps bitterly, and begs, “Oh bless me too, my father!”
Isaac laments, “ Your brother has deceived me, and has taken your blessing.”
Esau responds, “Isn’t that why he’s called Jacob (supplanter)? He’s taken me twice now, he took my birthright and now he’s taken my blessing. Haven’t you saved a blessing for me?”
The patriarchal blessing is a big deal, like a lifetime of Christmses and birthdays rolled into one. It involves inheriting property as well as authority and power. and is validation and celebration of the eldest son’s special place in the family line.
While that kind of blessing may not be what we long for today, the primal need for the blessing of our fathers and our mothers and from other significant people in our lives, remains a powerful one, the need for unconditional love and embrace. Bestselling authors Gary Smalley and John Trent, write about this in their book The Blessinge:
Children desperately need to know - and to hear in ways they understand and remember - that they're loved and valued by mom and dad.
Affirming words from moms and dads are like light switches. Speak a word of affirmation at the right moment in a child's life and it's like lighting up a whole roomful of possibilities.
I was fortunate having a father who was a genuinely good man, generous to a fault, and never intentionally hurtful in any way. In many ways I'm in awe of him, but he grew up in a home in which his father became a widower for the third time when his third wife, my father’s mother, died in childbirth when my dad was only 3 years old. His grief-stricken father, my grandfather Dan, was unable to say "I love you" or to hug or praise my father or the rest of his six older siblings.
My father did impart to me his heart for those who are hurting and his good example as a person of integrity and generosity, and I got from him much more than he had ever received from his grief stricken father, whom he described as “a man of sorrows.”
What he wasn’t able to give me, given his family upbringing and the the Swiss-German culture he grew up in, was the ability to embrace me and tell me he loved me, and spend much one-on-one father and son time with me when I was a child, even though I believe he did the best he knew. And we did form a closer bond later in life, and learned to hug and express appreciation for each other.
I wrote a journal letter to him some years ago that was something in the mode of Esau’s “Bless me too my father,” addressed "Dear Dad," in which I told him how much I loved him and how much I had always longed for his spoken words of love and affirmation. I followed this with a journal letter of response and blessing from him, addressed "Dear Harvey," with words I truly believed in my heart he would have responded with, if he could have, from the other side of the grave. This was a truly powerful part of the journaling exercise, the wished for letter that expressed what I was sure would have come from deep inside of this genuinely good man.
I suspect most of us, at some level, understand the heart cry of Esau, “Bless me, too, my father, and my mother,” as a wish for filling whatever hole in the soul we may still find within us.
I’ll never forget an experience I had attending a week at the Wellspring Retreat Center (after my parents had both passed) sponsored by the Church of the Savior, a Washington, DC, based ministry founded by Gordon Cosby, an elder churchman, writer and fatherly figure I had always admired. I’ve long forgotten what he spoke about in the one session in which he was present, but I’ll never forget what happened to me after he spoke and was leaving the room. While turning around to make a few more comments he, for whatever reason, laid his hands on my shoulders as he stood next to my chair by the aisle, unintentionally imparting what felt like a blessing on me. I can still feel the warmth, the affirmation, the confirmation associated with that simple gesture.
In light of my own longing for this kind of grace I’ve collected words of blessings over the years from many sources, many of which I’ve shared with members of our family and others over the years:
One of these is the blessing an aged Jacob gives his son Joseph, along with those he gives his older brothers. Has Jacob's night long wrestling with God, his later act of repentance and reparation with his brother Esau, made him a changed man?
Here's the blessing he imparts his next to youngest son:
"You are a fruitful vine,
a fruitful vine near a spring,
whose branches climb over a wall.
With bitterness archers attacked you;
But your bow remained steady
your arms remained limber,
because of the hand of the Mighty One of Jacob,
because of the Shepherd, the Rock of Israel,
because of your fathers’ God, who helps you,
because of the Almighty, who blesses you,
with the blessings of heaven above,
blessings of the deep that lies below,
blessings of the breast and womb.
Your father's blessings are greater
than the blessings of the ancient mountains,
than the bounty of the age-old hills.
Let all these rest on your head,
may continual blessing rest on your brow."
(Genesis 49:22-26)
Adoration of the Shepherds by 17th century Dutch painter Matthias Stomer (Wikipedia) |
Meanwhile, some have questioned whether we should observe the holiday at all, given the extent to which it has been highjacked by commercial interests whose mission is totally counter to that of the one whose birth is supposedly being celebrating.
Others make the case that the Nativity story has gotten a disproportionate amount of attention compared to what we typically give to the rest of Jesus' earthly life and ministry. They remind us that only two of the four New Testament gospels even have brief accounts of Jesus' birth, while all give extensive space to his healing and teaching work, and each devotes whole chapters to Jesus' suffering, death and resurrection.
By comparison, our church's newest Voices Together hymnal, not unlike those of other denominations, has all of 52 hymns under the heading of Advent and Christmas, 50 under Journey to the Cross (Lent), and Jesus' Death, and Resurrection, and only 23 hymns on the theme of Life, Teaching and Ministry of Jesus. Many other hymns contain elements of all of these themes, of course.
As another example, the Apostles' Creed, after affirming the heavenly origin of Jesus, makes no reference at all to his earthly ministry, going directly from "born of the Virgin Mary" to "suffered under Pontius Pilate." (See https://harvyoder.blogspot.com/2014/10/guest-post-anabaptist-comma.html)
Having said that, there is something compelling and powerful about Jesus coming as a powerless infant rather than an omnipotent monarch.
Associated Mennonite Biblical Seminary professor Ted Koontz, in a piece entitled, “Why did God come to us as a baby?” makes the point that while we see newborns as helpless and weak, a baby in fact has significant power. For example, a baby can wake parents in the middle of the night from a deep sleep, get them out of bed and respond to their needs when they would be willing to get up for few other reasons.
Yet, he notes, this cry of a baby represents a power to which we can respond or choose not to. It can profoundly move us, but at the same time it in no way forces us to do anything or robs us of our freedom. Some people might in fact be able to sleep on, oblivious to a baby’s cry. But there is something in our very natures that makes us want to respond. To refuse to do so would be to refuse to be who we know ourselves to be down deep.
This is an important part of the incarnation story, that the kind of divine call that comes to us in the form of “baby power” is the way God chooses to move us. It makes clear that God prefers the soft power of persuasion and invitation over than the hard power of violence and dominance.
In response, millions have acknowledged the Holy Child as “King of Kings and Lord of Lords,” as one who rules from a lowly manger and a martyr's cross rather than from a monarch's throne.
Merry Christmas! (Note: The Anglo-Saxon origin of the word merry denotes "valiant," "illustrious," "great," or "gallant", as in Shakespeare's "a merry gale" referring to "a strong wind")
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With no real enemies, US poised to spend $1.8 trillion for national security in 2025
Not one of the other 194 countries poses the slightest threat to the US homeland. Yet the US foolishly provokes confrontation with Russia and China, the first and third most nuclear armed states.
With no enemies lurking near our borders, the US plans to spend $1.8 trillion next year to promote not defense, but US adventurism abroad.
750 bases in 80 countries overseas billeting 160,000 soldiers does not come cheap. Additionally, the US has squandered upwards of $200 billion to destroy Ukraine in our proxy war against Russia, and obliterate Gaza by our Middle East aircraft carrier Israel.
That helps explain why Congress is about to pass an $895.2 billion National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) to fund discretionary activities of our Defense Department. Adding in mandatory defense spending of $25.8 billion swells the Pentagon’s budget to a cool $921 billion.
But don’t forget nuclear weapons programs, Homeland Security, cost to treat vets from America’s forever wars and miscellaneous foreign adventures. These add another $796.8 billion, making a national security grand total for 2025 a staggering $1,776,800,000. A far distant second in defense spending is China at less than a quarter trillion.
How can this be in the hyped ‘greatest democracy on Earth’? Simple. The administration, Congress, presidential candidates, the media offer not one word of discussion, much less protest about this monstrous squandering of US treasure to get millions killed, injured, starved, sick and homeless in countries America has no business meddling in.
America’s national security budget may as well be planned and passed on Mars, far from the radar of America’s 155,000,200 clueless voters having no say in this monstrosity whatsoever.
Of course, with the US war party crossing Russian red lines like it’s in a demolition derby, nuclear war becomes more likely than at any time since the Cuban Missile Crisis 62 years ago. If that happens, any important discussion of our $1.8 trillion national security budget will be moot.
Walt Zlotow is a writer for the West Suburban Peace Coalition in Glen Ellyn IL.